When was the last time you sat as a family for dinner?
How often your family sits together for a meals is directly correlated to how your children do in life. If yours is a family that joins as a unit for dinner on a regular basis (5-7 times a week), congratulations, you are giving your kids an advantage for dealing with issues they are certain to experience in life. If you’re not, you’re missing out on a huge opportunity to connect with your kids, influence who they are and affect how they view the world.
Studies show that the more often families eat together, the less likely kids are to smoke, drink, do drugs, get depressed, develop eating disorders and consider suicide, and the more likely they are to do well in school, delay having sex, eat their vegetables, learn big words and know which fork to use.
The roast is in the oven, the kids are setting the table, dinner will be ready in about 10 minutes… Just enough time to check out the following links…
The Magic of the Family Meal , TIME Magazine
2011 Family Dinners Report , National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse at Columbia University
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Just a few of the messages I have received from friends that love Mikhaila…
“One time she went to the kingsoopers that was just built with our friend cory and they opened a package of cookies and ate A cookie and got a 200 dollar fine. lol always laughed at her for that one.” -M.R.M.
“She was the sweetest friend, always so understanding.” -M.D.
“When she walked into any room, she just brought this feel of warmth and happiness with her. You knew as soon as she was coming because you could hear her adorable laugh… She just was a pure soul 🙂 always smiling, always positive, always lighting up everyone else’s day that she came into contact with. You can see that by the reactions this has brought with it. KIIt just felt like no matter what happened on any given day, she found a way to find peace with it and still walk around smiling.” – C.H.
“She was and still is such an amazing girl. She always made us smile. I remember her laugh so well, every time she would laugh everyone in the room would light up.” – M.W.
“She was kind hearted, and beautiful. She turned into one of the best friends i could ever ask for. She was always around to help me even when she needed my help more than i needed hers. She was bright and intelligent, but she was so lost.” – G.C.
“She was really insecure, i never understood why. she was so beautiful and it was impossible to convice her other wise. everyone thought she was the prettiest thing, and her personality made her even prettier. we knew she wasnt always happy but she still smiled and laughed and made everyone else around her see the light in life.” -M.D.
“her laugh ♥ she would always laugh at something i would say and I never knew what i would say that would make her laugh but i would start laughing cause her laugh was one of a kind and you would always start laughing after her.” -M.D.
“She was a sneaky one. she always gave me a chicken sandwich at legacy cause my parents didnt always give me money for food. so she would either buy it with lances money or just take it lol.” -M.R.M.
“She was a very strong willed and strong opininated person but liked to be around people that would challenge that. I think she was strong willed to a fault though. She was soo beautiful. From her laugh to her smile and how she lit up a room. When she had a problem with you she let you know but she never stayed mad. She was just the perfect person. In all honesty. She was someone you always wanted to be around.” -E.F.
“She was a well rounded person. She liked to be different to stand out and to be constantly with people she was always a social animal. And she definitely came out of her shell and grew into her own. Anything that could make her different she would try.” -E.F.
There have been so many good times. And so many bad. Within the good memories that I remember with you. You gave me a sense of belonging, accomplishment, and confidence. You took me to a place where not one person or thing could ever take me before. But again, there were the situations when you made my life a living hell. With you, relationships with friends and family were broken, school became an issue, and health risks were raised. I believe that with you gone now I can create beneficial outcomes and am overall a happier person.
It’s long been known that those with mental illnesses are more likely to develop addictions to drugs or alcohol, and likewise, those with addictions are more susceptible to mental illness.
Check out this link from everydayhealth.com which delves into the subject.
What are your thoughts?
Every day, 2,500 teenagers use a prescription drug to get high for the first time. They’re accessing these drugs in the comfort of home; it can be as easy as opening a cupboard, drawer, or medicine cabinet. The good news – there are steps you can take to help protect your kids from prescription drug abuse: monitor, secure and dispose. This site, created by Abbott and The Partnership for a Drug-Free America, shows you how.
Here is a scenario for you to consider:
Against your advice and better judgement, your eighteen year old daughter moves in with her boyfriend to his parent’s house. Within a short time, you see that she is losing weight and notice dark bags under her eyes. Her visits become less frequent and she calls less often. You realize that the times she does decide to visit, things come up missing; your digital camera on one occasion, your cell phone on another, and most recently your diamond anniversary band. She denies using drugs, but to your horror her best friend confides in you and confirms what you’ve suspected all along.
For the the past year your child has been abusing and is addicted to prescription pills. She spends her days with her boyfriend in the basement crushing up and snorting OxyCodine and OxyContin, and smoking Xanax pills on strips of aluminum foil. You confront her and she admits using drugs in the past but assures you she has stopped and has everything under control. Her boyfriend’s parents are in denial and refuse to answer your calls or open the door. Soon after your daughter stops contacting you as well. The police won’t do anything without evidence that a crime has been committed. She is not thinking clearly, not her normal self, unable to make sound decisions, and is killing herself right in front of you…
What can you do at this point to save your child from this scenario and the misery of a self induced unintentional drug over dose?
Find out why currently there is nothing you can do, and learn about a mother trying to change this from this FORBES article:
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Here is a decent link about signs to look for if you suspect your child is experimenting with prescription drugs. It’s short and sweet. Check out the rest of the sight it’s packed with information for parents about children and drugs.
Please, prepare your children for life’s challenges BEFORE they encounter them by maintaining a continious non judgmental dialogue with your child about things you believe are important. They are going to find out about life eventually one way or another, better from you than someone else, don’t you think?
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